LOVE YO' SELF

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Welp, just like that January is over and the heart balloons, boxes of chocolates, and fuzzy teddy bears are flooding my favorite aisle at Publix... yup the frozen pizza aisle (still don't know who thought to put cards and pizza in the same aisle). On top of that my e-mails and social media feeds are also being consumed with 'The Ultimate Gift Ideas for BAE this Valentine's Day'.  I'm sure I will fall into the sugar coated trap and buy bae a box of chocolates and I'm absolutely positive I will wind up finishing said box before he does (yea, he still loves me).  

But, in the midst of all these marketing schemes there is someone special that we always seem to forget about on this day of manufactured love...ourselves.  Now, I'm not hating on Valentine's Day by any means... I'm just saying make sure you don't forget about your #1 lover... yourself.

PSA: Self love is not selfish! Yup, I said it and I'll say it again... it is 100% ok to worry about yourself first. Because how are we able to help others when we are completely drained ourselves?

So what the heck is self love? It's funny, I actually Googled "self love" and this is what the dictionary came up with..."regard for one's own well-being and happiness (chiefly considered as a desirable rather than narcissistic characteristic)." I was so stoked when I saw the last part, because I feel that for the longest time self love was always considered selfish. I am a notorious people pleaser, and I would stress myself to no end trying to make everyone happy. And then one day I learned how to say the word "no" without explanation and that was the day I learned to love myself. I'm still learning and growing and loving myself a little more each day, but this was a game changer for me. In the beginning I would feel bad not going to so-and-so's party or rearranging my entire day to fit something in that I didn't even want to do, but then I learned how to compromise and still help others without burning myself out.

Please keep helping others, but make sure to help yourself from time to time too. It's ok to stay in on a Friday night, drink some tea (or wine) and read a book in bed instead of bar hopping for girl's night. Life is about balance and ultimately its about doing what makes you happy. One of the biggest lessons that I have learned in my 32 years on this planet is that you are responsible for your own happiness; you are not responsible for anyone else's happiness and no one else is responsible for yours.

So lets have a little fun this month and show ourselves some much needed love.

Write down 5 things that make you happy and by the end of the month I hope that you have crossed them all off your list. Don't think of this as a to-do list, think of it as a guilty pleasure list. If going to the gym every morning makes you happy by all means write it down, but I'm not looking for New Year's resolutions over here, I talking quality me-time moments, that don't necessarily need to be spent alone. 
 

Here are mine:

  1. Watch the sunrise on the beach. 
  2. Take a relaxing bubble bath.
  3. Finish a good book (and not finish a book that I'm just not that into)
  4. Spend some quality time with my love and furbabes.
  5. Shut everything down and get away for the weekend. 

Let me know yours in the comments and lets check back in next month and see how many we crossed off!!

Love you all as much as I love myself, 
Nikki